tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post5892413684207302844..comments2023-12-29T04:36:07.964-04:00Comments on Square 8: Power outageBevhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06766614739853100172noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-47369353019164621452007-10-15T12:01:00.000-04:002007-10-15T12:01:00.000-04:00I remember the last time you argued like that quit...I remember the last time you argued like that quite clearly . . . and I think you and I were riding the same pattern that day. And of course, the aim of such long-ass strings of argument is for each person to get their point across (though they usually do end in that "agree to disagree" ennui) -- but the result is a bunch of text that noone but the bravest of incidental lurkers would dare to wade through. ABFH is right; it's much more helpful for, say, someone who's looking for information on the topics you're covering to happen upon a nice neat blog entry than upon an endless thread of bickering. In fact, I've seen some folks actually say, "Wow, here I was looking for some useful information from you people and all you're doing is ripping each other to shreds." So yeah. Take it to your own blog. It might break the rules of etiquette to do so (like, the author of the original entry might respond with the equivalent of "Why don't you say it to my face?"), but if your goal is to reach folks, this is definitely a better way. Heck, you can even say "I felt compelled to comment on this, but I didn't want it to get lost in all of that mess, so I've organized it here."<BR/><BR/>Oh, and yeah, I'm sorry I wasn't available at that moment to violently shake you and talk you out of arguing. Mea culpa. Chances are I'd have done the same.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-88199397501511277962007-10-15T10:17:00.000-04:002007-10-15T10:17:00.000-04:00Perhaps the "NT gaze" is eye contact. ;)Personally...Perhaps the "NT gaze" is eye contact. ;)<BR/><BR/>Personally, I don't (consciously) care whether someone looks me in the eye as long as I somehow know they're talking to me. That's generally not a problem when I'm alone with just one other person, and I don't seem to have problems with it in groups either. Sometimes I don't even care to look at the other person. And certain types of staring - straight into the eyes, or at the forehead, for extended time - is supposedly an "I have higher status than you" expression of body language, like it is in wolves. Looking straight into the eyes can make NTs uncomfortable, too, for that reason. So maybe there is something to eye contact as the NT gaze, even though I meant it as a joke.reform_normalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16843505167180498235noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-18456356150382426802007-10-14T19:31:00.000-04:002007-10-14T19:31:00.000-04:00The thing you are describing w/ men is called the ...The thing you are describing w/ men is called the <A HREF="http://it.stlawu.edu/~global/glossary/gaze1.html" REL="nofollow">male gaze.</A> Many times men don't understand how something can be discriminatory to women, because for hundreds of years men were the ones who created the way women should be seen and understood. Until women started speaking out and telling them there was more to the story.<BR/><BR/>Maybe there is an "NT gaze" too?gminkshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15065412688992795447noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-4711296904695431682007-10-14T15:17:00.000-04:002007-10-14T15:17:00.000-04:00I agree... why waste time and energy arguing with ...I agree... why waste time and energy arguing with people who won't listen anyway? It's much more useful to do what you did here, collecting your thoughts on the subject and turning them into a blog post. I often do the same thing.abfhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01228622726560993968noreply@blogger.com