tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post3774960186614575991..comments2023-12-29T04:36:07.964-04:00Comments on Square 8: Siblings of Neurotypicality Suffer the Most: A Holiday Letter from Squawkers McCawBevhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06766614739853100172noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-50378283410707198602009-12-31T20:34:07.193-04:002009-12-31T20:34:07.193-04:00The holidays have presented interesting challenges...The holidays have presented interesting challenges for M over the years. This year M stayed home the week before Christmas because the energy at school is just over the top.Marla https://www.blogger.com/profile/03926898159751613267noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-77423253186554894792009-12-23T22:07:09.399-04:002009-12-23T22:07:09.399-04:00I've been whispering names of videogames in be...I've been whispering names of videogames in bed and smiling because I'm not obligated to do some of the holiday stuff family members feel they have to do. I just stare at the lights and wait for my new games (I like puzzles a lot).Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-86821666715749071262009-12-18T20:53:08.546-04:002009-12-18T20:53:08.546-04:00Damn. I was also disgusted to learn about the Buil...Damn. I was also disgusted to learn about the Build a Bear affiliation. Though they had no trench coat, I was considering some other things from them for Mr. McCaw. Damn.Bevhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06766614739853100172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-23974557578207386572009-12-18T07:56:28.494-04:002009-12-18T07:56:28.494-04:00Sadly, the Build-A-Bear people support Autism Spea...<i>Sadly, the Build-A-Bear people support Autism Speaks </i><br /><br />This makes me very sad.Alihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17506113565483915394noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-64843665851236665892009-12-17T19:06:14.543-04:002009-12-17T19:06:14.543-04:00the Build-A-Bear people support Autism Speaks
Ug...<i>the Build-A-Bear people support Autism Speaks </i><br /><br />Ugh. Thanks for the warning.Graftonhttp://asdrelationships.freeforums.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-47039332333813683462009-12-17T18:18:53.815-04:002009-12-17T18:18:53.815-04:00Sadly, the Build-A-Bear people support Autism Spea...Sadly, the Build-A-Bear people support Autism Speaks and probably have been convinced by now that trench coats and their wearers are a devastating burden to society and must be eradicated.<br /><br />Looking forward to seeing a pic of Squawkers in his new trench coat!abfhhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01228622726560993968noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-69999117464352580502009-12-17T08:45:22.740-04:002009-12-17T08:45:22.740-04:00I am shocked, I tell you, shocked, to discover tha...<em>I am shocked, I tell you, shocked, to discover that the 'Build-a-Bear' people who sell teddy-bear outfits don't have a little trench coat and fedora secret-agent-bear set.</em><br /><br />THIS IS AN OUTRAGE!!!!!!!!!!!<br /><br />:)<br /><br />Merry Christmas, Bev. *hugs*<br /><br />Happy whatever-you-celebrate-if-you-celebrate-anything-at-this-time-of-year to everyone.stopbeingstupidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14860866633957025571noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-26655296842093282512009-12-17T03:29:59.739-04:002009-12-17T03:29:59.739-04:00Are you holding up your sarcasm sign?
I thought t...Are you holding up your sarcasm sign?<br /><br />I thought that you said not that he <i>should</i> stay home and like it, but that if he wants to stay home and likes it, that is <i>okay.</i> The expectation that I be sociable, forced socialization, and the punishment of my solitary tendencies was a torment to me as a child.<br /><br />It's not like enjoying or not enjoying parties was the whole of this post anyway.<br /><br />There are a lot of people who are, for some unfathomable reason, utterly convinced that anything and everything is all about <i>them</i>, so I suppose it is not surprising that you get a NLMC!!! howl when writing about some fairly typical autistic reactions to stuff.<br /><br />I am shocked, I tell you, shocked, to discover that the 'Build-a-Bear' people who sell teddy-bear outfits don't have a little trench coat and fedora secret-agent-bear set. Maybe you can find a McGruff the Crime Dog doll and convince him to change careers. Or the bear people do have white lab coats, and a dye job and a belt would trench one up. If the Japanese one doesn't fit and can't be tailored right, that is.Graftonhttp://asdrelationships.freeforums.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-88112482610472160062009-12-16T22:59:28.849-04:002009-12-16T22:59:28.849-04:00I just saw the comment FW2 left about this post ov...I just saw the comment FW2 left about this post over at Kristina Chew's blog. Apparently I'm being ignorant again and talking about her son. Seems I said somewhere here that he should stay home and like it. I somehow implied all autistic people have the same habits and preferences. I've got to start learning to communicate better. I thought it would be clear I was speaking here from my own experience, which for some reason I assumed was relevent and valid. Oops.Bevhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06766614739853100172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-87856162803362113882009-12-16T21:05:34.772-04:002009-12-16T21:05:34.772-04:00Surprisingly, it is not easy to find a trench coat...Surprisingly, it is not easy to find a trench coat, traditional or otherwise, is Squawkers' size. He will be getting a "modern" Japanese version, hip-length, but since it's made for a slightly larger guy, I think it will be full length on him. I'm just hoping it will fit okay and he'll be happy with it. Otherwise, I'll be looking for a good tailor...Bevhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06766614739853100172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-15924080673382630392009-12-16T20:57:21.800-04:002009-12-16T20:57:21.800-04:00Is there a specific term for a full-length, black ...<i>Is there a specific term for a full-length, black leather coat of the kind I mistakenly termed a trench coat?</i><br /><br />For the purposes of making yourself understood, I'm sure that "black leather trench coat" or "Matrix coat" is good. For making Grafton think you're accurate, well, 'black leather overcoat' will work without baffling others. I think there are at least three different long black leather overcoats in 'The Matrix.' I don't really remember it all that well. The one just like Spike's (In <i>Buffy the Vampire Slayer</i>) is a duster. The skirt of the coat is split in the back so you can sit on a horse and have it cover your legs (against the dust) on either side of the animal. One can say 'duster' to random people and they'll know what you mean. Trinity wears one that's really cut in at the waist and I'd call it a paletot (but that would be utterly confusing because not only does nobody use that term, the woman's overgarment called a paletot is totally different from the men's coat, and what she's wearing is a men's style tailored for female form) or maybe an overfrock. Men don't much wear garments that are cut in at the waist like that now, and the straight overcoat you usually see (Mulder's black wool overcoat, Tony Soprano's one, mine) is a Chesterfield, but you can't call it that because nobody uses that term either. None of these terms address blackness or leatherness and maybe I ought to just be laughed at, because I am applying very outdated coat-names to modern coats that only just happen to look just like the old ones.<br /><br />I think Squawkers will look fantastic in any of them, but imagine a classic grey or tan cloth trench coat proper, like Inspector Clouseau or Bogart.Graftonhttp://asdrelationships.freeforums.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-55281263257120391852009-12-16T16:16:07.051-04:002009-12-16T16:16:07.051-04:00Squawkers, you are going to look SO fab in a trenc...Squawkers, you are going to look SO fab in a trench coat. (Sorry, Grafton.)evonnenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-18551192172685772972009-12-16T13:45:17.808-04:002009-12-16T13:45:17.808-04:00Grafton:
"Nothing especially recent about tha...Grafton:<br />"Nothing especially recent about that, except calling it a trench coat. My attachment to precise taxonomy makes me grind my teeth at the strange way that every full-length coat ... has somehow become a 'trench coat.' It's like calling every cat a siamese.<br />...<br />Please don't take it personally that I've succumbed to my socially-inappropriate urge to tell you that."<br /><br />Oh, no, not at all. I share the attachment to precise taxonomy, when I know the relevant terms. In this case I did not.<br /><br /><i>Is</i> there a specific term for a full-length, black leather coat of the kind I mistakenly termed a trench coat?Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10860246538349067232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-89158969139398038952009-12-16T04:58:00.709-04:002009-12-16T04:58:00.709-04:00A fluffy white substance has descended upon my hom...A fluffy white substance has descended upon my homeland; I make a wish and Kurt Twitters...tmshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09905399970834991317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-64297718024910877022009-12-15T23:14:46.897-04:002009-12-15T23:14:46.897-04:00Nothing especially recent about that, except calli...Nothing especially recent about that, except calling it a trench coat. My attachment to precise taxonomy makes me grind my teeth at the strange way that every full-length coat, from camel-hair overcoats to oilskin dusters, has somehow become a 'trench coat.' It's like calling every cat a siamese. Next thing I know I'll be accused of wearing a trench coat when I step outside in my lab coat, which is blue to hide the stains.<br /><br />Please don't take it personally that I've succumbed to my socially-inappropriate urge to tell you that. :)Graftonhttp://asdrelationships.freeforums.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-5863412296341734752009-12-15T23:12:33.545-04:002009-12-15T23:12:33.545-04:00These things don’t bother Durwood; he has sensory ...<i>These things don’t bother Durwood; he has sensory deficiencies.</i><br /><br />Brilliant. The last two paragraphs had me in tears.BenandCoopersDadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00910483837253235627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-55564714230818097712009-12-15T23:06:12.727-04:002009-12-15T23:06:12.727-04:00I enjoy your sarcasm so much. It is riveting. Peop...I enjoy your sarcasm so much. It is riveting. People fuss so much over their autistic children only because of the label. I see absolutely rotten NT children getting away with stuff, not pottee trained until 6 or above which in autism is apparently a behaviorist's failure and an autistic child's functioning fault.<br /><br />HAHA at "music related movement rituals". The big secret of course is that the really enjoyable movement rituals don't really require music.Strandedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16819973077683697310noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-3426128769929114822009-12-15T19:10:47.735-04:002009-12-15T19:10:47.735-04:00Ha ha ha!
I especially loved this line:
"It ...Ha ha ha!<br /><br />I especially loved this line:<br />"<i>It seems that the $100 LookSilly slate blue sneakers he had to have last month are now 'bogus' and will need to be replaced by the new LookSillier version in cobalt.</i>"<br /><br />I like trench coats, too, only of the more recent, "Matrix" variety in black leather.Lindsayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10860246538349067232noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-63994180871890934512009-12-15T18:47:42.718-04:002009-12-15T18:47:42.718-04:00It is so difficult as the parent to not make the e...It is so difficult as the parent to not make the entire family focus on the one with the disorder, but to make sure to take plenty of time and focus for the others.Missyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00818022843545001748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-6257376572475084212009-12-15T18:16:05.868-04:002009-12-15T18:16:05.868-04:00:( The poor dears who are so burdened and traumati...:( The poor dears who are so burdened and traumatized by having to deal with family members with such an affliction....<br /><br />I liked this line best too: "haberdashery habits, courtship behaviors, and the forms of music related movement rituals performed."Edhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08354784098768688627noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-58939929913176953042009-12-15T13:03:50.070-04:002009-12-15T13:03:50.070-04:00Bev,
you are a StarBev,<br /><br />you are a StarSocrateshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12525104555859213125noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-19977675801743146202009-12-15T12:47:30.136-04:002009-12-15T12:47:30.136-04:00This is awesome.
Personally, I loved this line, b...This is awesome.<br /><br />Personally, I loved this line, because it's so true and yet people don't even see it as such:<br /><br /><i>It was so playful, so “just like a neurotypical kid” they said. Sometimes I do resent the special accommodations he gets. Just sayin’.</i>codeman38https://www.blogger.com/profile/09005307767833296869noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-77720870700246731532009-12-15T11:33:17.915-04:002009-12-15T11:33:17.915-04:00"haberdashery habits, courtship behaviors, an..."haberdashery habits, courtship behaviors, and the forms of music related movement rituals performed."<br /><br />My favourite line in the whole post.<br /><br /><br /><br />I have a trench coat. It's tan, and double-breasted. Trench coats are awesome...ASpieboyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04299629515371929590noreply@blogger.com