tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post2883800655566648944..comments2023-12-29T04:36:07.964-04:00Comments on Square 8: For parentsBevhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06766614739853100172noreply@blogger.comBlogger43125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-39816098271024463352015-06-29T10:08:28.278-04:002015-06-29T10:08:28.278-04:00That depends on what you mean by 'biomed',...That depends on what you mean by 'biomed', Anon.<br /><br />I've seen 'biomed' refer to anything from stuff like bleach enemas and hyperbaric oxygen to GFCF diet to herbal teas.<br /><br />The GFCF diet. okay, sure. Herbal teas...sure, why not? Herbal teas would certainly help say, olfactory-seekers. <br /><br />But I think you understand why I cannot and will not condone biomed without further explanation. <br />Autistic Against Antivaxxershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04529371929000018264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-85577759873462492792015-05-30T18:30:29.226-04:002015-05-30T18:30:29.226-04:00I think one of the major problems is that for most...I think one of the major problems is that for most people it does not take a major mental leap to go from words like "syndrome", "condition", "disorder" to construing that to be "illness" and from "illness" to "epidemic" and from that to "cure" and "eradication" and calling the centre for disease control! Especially when there's hyperbole involved!!! Miguel Palaciohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02311154354365423829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-34187601173765818022013-03-18T04:34:56.768-04:002013-03-18T04:34:56.768-04:00I don't want to change my son. I just want peo...I don't want to change my son. I just want people to understand him. When I tell people he has Asperger's they have no clue what I'm saying. If I simplify it and say he has Autisim, they don't buy it because he's not what they had in mind.Lulabell75https://www.blogger.com/profile/08687405585534842937noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-9194308015789406842011-02-23T23:34:59.291-04:002011-02-23T23:34:59.291-04:00"I object to the characterization of autism i..."I object to the characterization of autism itself as an illness."<br /><br />Thank you. I want to say so much more, but I don't know how. Thank you for standing up. For being an ally. Jonathan's ally.Brendahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08502782569683641996noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-30858619551610999612010-05-08T16:13:16.838-04:002010-05-08T16:13:16.838-04:00Definately not an enemy, but going the other way, ...Definately not an enemy, but going the other way, this is the issue that I have for my own son. He is high functioning Aspergers/PDD, he is so bright, and we try to keep him focused and make sure all his homework is done and he has everything located in a safe place. I wish I could get through to him, that I am not his enemy. I just want him to be successful, and to be able to live a full life. Anyways, nice to read this article...thank you.Dad of a kid with Aspergershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00280726955049492717noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-17603625328266483752010-03-06T18:55:26.919-04:002010-03-06T18:55:26.919-04:00I really appreciate your sentiment that we are not...I really appreciate your sentiment that we are not enemies. I think that one of the saddest things in the world of autism is how families have turned against each other to such a degree. I do think we all want the same thing and I think you have elucidated it beautifully. I offer my thoughts in the spirit of respectful discourse.<br />My experience has been different. My son is mostly recovered from his ASD now- the ASD was not "who he is" it was obscuring "who he is" like dark clouds obscuring the sun. Healing him has had nothing to do with "making him act normal" and he has received almost no "therapy". I homeschool my kids (my other son had ADHD and OCD), well actually we unschool. I do this because I want my kids to live in freedom to be themselves and live free of stigma and negative expectations about what they “should” be able to do and how they “should” behave. My sons are free to indulge their interests and learn what they want in the way they want. They are free to be as quirky and as atypical as they want to be.<br />Having said that, understanding that my kids’ neurological symptoms were the result of underlying biological injuries, and then healing them from these injuries, has resulted in my ASD son no longer being on the spectrum and my other son no longer having ADHD, OCD, and severe anxiety. There are thousands of children who did have autism, whose biological injuries have been healed, and who no longer have autism. So we know that autism is not always a life-long neurological condition, although it may often be such. Regardless of whether or not ASD is lifelong I absolutely agree that all people, including those with ASD, have the right to live in a world that respects and honors them and their abilities as they are in the present, not as we may “want” or envision them to be in the future.<br />There is no shame in being injured, sick, or poisoned. I myself am all three of those. The way I see it, healing someone whose injuries result in neurological manifestations should not imply a lack of respect for the person any more than giving glasses to a child with poor vision implies that you can't respect or love the child unless he can see better. We do it because improved sight is helpful for the child. I am healing my son so that his true self can shine through. I am in no way trying to “shape” or “control” how that self should look or behave. He has always been extraordinary and I hope to god he never becomes normal! “Who my son is” is bigger than ASD, and his gifts and creativity are ever stronger the closer he gets to being healed. In our experience the gifts and the struggles of ASD are not “two sides of the same coin”. <br />I feel sad that only in the world of autism are parents who want to heal their kids labeled as "desperate" in a negative way. We hear so many stories in the media of parents who fight to extremes to help their children with seizures, cancer, paralysis, and physical injuries, and they are always hailed as heroes. When the child has autism, suddenly these parents are deluded and to be pitied. These parents are some of the most informed and knowledgeable people I have ever met and are the LAST people to be "suckered" or to blindly follow someone. It's not doctors who push biomed on parents, it's informed parents demanding what they need from doctors. It’s easy to judge and label people whose behavior we don’t understand, but please, in the spirit of being allies and not enemies, please don’t judge biomed parents any more than you want to be judged yourself.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-75307789613854496122010-01-31T07:56:52.873-04:002010-01-31T07:56:52.873-04:00i love your logic
you think similar to me and i r...i love your logic<br /><br />you think similar to me and i respect your taughts and wisdom<br /><br />i have 2 children luca is 3 with classic autism and kyra is 9 with aspergers<br /><br />i am hoping to learn a lot from your blogs xxAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06219432991945750802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-70846180235210918812010-01-21T00:32:42.981-04:002010-01-21T00:32:42.981-04:00Hi Bev,
I am fairly new to blogging and relatively...Hi Bev,<br />I am fairly new to blogging and relatively new to the diagnosis of Asperger's Syndrome and Autism for me and my two boys and it often amazes and saddens me how much division there is in this community.<br /><br />I appreciated reading your heartfelt post and will be interested to read other postings. <br /><br />Come As You Are - Let Your Light Shine.Karen K.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12070155720984904534noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-39130872233756129562009-10-19T14:40:32.964-04:002009-10-19T14:40:32.964-04:00YES. Thank You. Well said.YES. Thank You. Well said.Pie Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13885292353187243507noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-56308812210594587052009-07-30T09:32:18.415-04:002009-07-30T09:32:18.415-04:00As an NT parent of an Autistic daughter I have lea...As an NT parent of an Autistic daughter I have learned over the years that as soon as I assume to know what is 'best' for her or think I know better or more about a situation involving her, I need to stop and be silent and to listen for her truth. Because everytime I assume something I get it wrong. My daughter has incredible patience and is a great teacher. I just have to make sure I am the one who has the listening ears and teachable heart. <br /><br />It has been people like you Bev who first showed me the way.Alisonnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-59299005071655038952009-06-10T13:20:57.461-04:002009-06-10T13:20:57.461-04:00Brilliant! I must share your site with my 18yo dau...Brilliant! I must share your site with my 18yo daughter. She has Asperger's and it is part of who she is. We get her help for what she needs help with (anxiety, diet issues) but she has always been a delightful person and I can't see anything that needs "curing".Beckyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05548782785628716228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-30452115154121344472009-03-11T19:17:00.000-04:002009-03-11T19:17:00.000-04:00"What is it about DAN! that causes a following of ..."What is it about DAN! that causes a following of negativity? My experience is that they are certainly not an 'anti-autistic society' group and would back those interested in bringing about societal change."<BR/><BR/>Excuse me? An organization called DEFEAT Autism Now is not anti-autistic?Ettinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08230821659466586897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-27099762747590828802008-09-14T13:34:00.000-04:002008-09-14T13:34:00.000-04:00Dear friend, you can't imagine how it was importan...Dear friend, you can't imagine how it was important for me to find your blog today. I'm deeply emotioned and I want to thank you for sharing so much information and emotions with us. I'm a mother of a wonderful Aspie boy. He is now 14, and he was diagnosed at 6. He is a strong worker, and because of his determination he has overcomed lots of difficulties till now. But he still is "different" in social terms. I dont want to think about the future with fear. I prefer to work hard (with him) to prepare himself to be strong and to face the world in a positive way. But I know that he will face lots of difficulties...<BR/>Your blog will be very important for me, from now on. I'll be back to follow your articles. Your experience will be a great help.<BR/>Thank you for sharing. Thank you for being there.<BR/>Be happy! You deserve it.<BR/><BR/>Teresa (from Portugal)Teresahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05340070833751805975noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-71817229401078109072008-07-09T21:26:00.000-04:002008-07-09T21:26:00.000-04:00Thank you so much for your belifes your blog broug...Thank you so much for your belifes your blog brought tears to my eyes. I have been fighting people to just accept my son for who he is and who he will ALWAYS be and that is a person who is Autistic and that he wouldnt be him if he wasnt. I hope one day that we all will see Autistic people in a more understanding way and accept them for who they are. A PROUD parent of an Autistic child.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-6052524743186271082008-06-26T01:00:00.000-04:002008-06-26T01:00:00.000-04:00I have a son with AS and have been feeling particu...I have a son with AS and have been feeling particularly blue about what the future holds for him. I read your pice and thank you - you've made me realise that I am one of the few chosen ones who have been given the priveledge of raising a child who is so truly special! Once again, thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-81120452846033116132008-06-17T16:55:00.000-04:002008-06-17T16:55:00.000-04:00Yep. Going on TAAProject website if Bev gives me t...Yep. Going on TAAProject website if Bev gives me the go at estee@taaproject.com.<BR/><BR/>EsteeEstee Klar-Wolfondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04075904929829751057noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-79540535529473886912008-06-09T11:46:00.000-04:002008-06-09T11:46:00.000-04:00I went to your presentation on Communication at Au...I went to your presentation on Communication at Autism Institue in Louisville and I left afterwards in tears. Finally, there was someone who could put all those thoughts into the words that wouldn't come out of my mouth.I made a picture to complement the video you showed at that presentation and I posted it on my blog<BR/>itlookslikespiltmilk.blogspot.com<BR/><BR/>My son is not a tragedy, either.<BR/><BR/>Thanks, Bev.MilkMomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11060059224978945151noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-10300162830987875672008-02-11T22:46:00.000-04:002008-02-11T22:46:00.000-04:00Mrs. C.I appreciate that you can see another side ...Mrs. C.<BR/><BR/>I appreciate that you can see another side on the matter. Is this the first positive report you have come across re: DAN!? What is it about DAN! that causes a following of negativity? My experience is that they are certainly not an 'anti-autistic society' group and would back those interested in bringing about societal change. Can't it all work together or am I missing something?prodan!momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01033657948816535671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-34705778448175817382008-02-11T21:51:00.000-04:002008-02-11T21:51:00.000-04:00Bev:Not sure if I disagree with you or not. Have ...Bev:<BR/><BR/>Not sure if I disagree with you or not. Have linked this post to my blog b/c I think it's worthy of discussion. Thanks!Happy Elf Mom (Christine)https://www.blogger.com/profile/15047347624037697311noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-71072265435531910722008-01-25T16:16:00.000-04:002008-01-25T16:16:00.000-04:00Bev,I am caught off guard by your disdaine for DAN...Bev,<BR/>I am caught off guard by your disdaine for DAN! My son has made amazing progress with DAN!(the site on Confederate Ave. no less) If you believe they cruelly give false hope please do not assume they help no one.prodan!momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01033657948816535671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-36738329545381924722008-01-17T02:28:00.000-04:002008-01-17T02:28:00.000-04:00Excellently put as always Bev. You do good things ...Excellently put as always Bev. You do good things for the world. Thanks :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-11096189685711625482008-01-11T22:17:00.000-04:002008-01-11T22:17:00.000-04:00I LOVE reading blogs and the writings on people wi...I LOVE reading blogs and the writings on people with autism who are adult! It has helped me accept my boys for who they are and be more conscious of how my non-verbal son may be trying to communicate! Thank you so much for writing this! This is my first time to your site, so I'm looking forward to exploring it!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-76286828311922418302008-01-04T14:10:00.000-04:002008-01-04T14:10:00.000-04:00Thank you so so so much. You have said so well wh...Thank you so so so much. You have said so well what I struggle to say in conversation after conversation. I hope it's okay if I just show people this article now instead.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-82178456561515926642007-12-07T14:27:00.000-04:002007-12-07T14:27:00.000-04:00I love the way you explain things. I appreciate t...I love the way you explain things. I appreciate the learning and growth I'm experiencing as I explore your site. Thank you. Not only are you helping me to help my son...you are helping so many in so many ways to understand, be informed and come together on the things we can agree about. Thank you, thank you, thank you!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5794893825407092443.post-89156820825670130192007-10-20T17:21:00.000-04:002007-10-20T17:21:00.000-04:00I like your blog. A lot.I like your blog. A lot.DJ Kirkbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08481107164497582398noreply@blogger.com