Great video! :) At first the blog post didn't show up, (it said the post isn't available, or something like that), when I clicked on my dashboard's "blogs I follow" link, but from the Hub, it works. Weird. Maybe it was just a temporary glitch...
About a month ago, there was a funny incident of the reverse type:
Me: Kira, so what do you think about adding so-and-so to the project? (A couple of minutes pass.) Me: Kira, so what do you think about it? Kira: (Gives an elaborate answer.) XODAR (Kira's BF): Wow, why did you wait so long? I would've repeated or dropped the question sooner.
It was a funny feeling - being almost-criticized for showing patience. What makes it even more weird is that (1) he supposedly loves her, yet admits being less patient towards her and (2) they're both hardcore, textbook-caricature NTs - the sort who are very illogical, cherish opinions based on the number of followers, and keep staring at my face when we talk.
Anyway, the video should prove a short-but-good point of education for NTs interacting with NDs. Nice work.
It was interesting seeing what you look like. Somehow, I imagined you with long brown hair! And why was there no parrot in the scene? Is it a parrot-free office? I would assume your co-workers would be aware that you have a delay between hearing a request and responding to it, just as my co-workers are aware that I have a mild form of epilepsy that makes it seem like I'm occasionally zoning out and ignoring them. People have all kinds of expectations that makes communication difficult sometimes. They want eye contact, but not too much or it appears rude or antagonistic, nods and smiles to indicate that their words are being heard and appreciated, and a liberal smattering of "uh-huhs" "wows" and "I know what you means." It's very tiring.
You have said more in one short video than all the gumph spouted in "Early Bird courses in Autism (deliberate mm) that I attended when my kids were first diagnosed.
more please!
Interestingly, from my little place on the spectrum, I interupt people before they finish as I have processed what they want, and I am afraid that I will forget what I need to answer before the thread moves on!
xx
ps. I would like to put this on my blog - with a link of course!! You may not like this as it is the IAA, but I write the blog and I decide what goes on it. (and what doesnt)
Yes, feel free to post this wherever you think it might help anyone. Thank you. I do the interrupting quite a bit, too, probably because the spoken form of the thought can easily disappear before I get a chance to say it.
Thanks to everyone for the kind comments on this little video. I do have a couple more that I will post later this month.
I process speech quickly, but under pressure just about anything can come out of my mouth-at warp speed. Kind of like the character in the new Battlestar Galactica that is the brain for the Cylon ships-the hybrid- says fundamentally important things mixed with ideas that nobody else gets.
My conversation can be a lot like that. My thoughts too.
Hi Bev, I heard your voice in my head yesterday as I repeatedly prompted my son to "use the soap" in the shower. "it takes me EXTRA TIME to process SPEECH""
So I linked you again. Thanks for making me a better mum. xx
I can also relate to that. It drives many bosses crazy. It's hurt me professionally. And I have hardly ever felt at ease sharing my condition with most of my bosses because they were usually the type to turn it against you. I was very fortunate that my 1st boss was the very very best. I was far from having been diagnosed yet, but he intuitively seemed to know how to be a good boss for me. At first he assumed it might have been because perhaps English was my second language. But in reality I experience this in any language that I learn and in fact I knew Dnglish just as well as other languages. But my boss realized that if he waited just a little bit that he usually appreciated the quality of my answers a whole lot better than many of the answers he had been getting from other people. He eventually started to come to me for answers more often than not and before you knew it I was given very exciting projects and then I was promoted way before time! Unfortunately, as often happens with many outstanding bosses, he was promoted and took an assignment far away in Greenland. I was happy for him but the new boss that came in made it living hell for me and treated me like a "retard" and I eventually left after 5 months of that treatment.
Noopept (a supplement which is only available online in the USA) helps with this. I didn't take it yesterday, so there was a greater processing delay. And it isn't only speech, but other sensory processing as well. It could be visual or tactile or anything else. And obviously auditory as well, which would affect speech. Interestingly, speech not only in its perception (listening and processing) but also in its delivery (translating what is in one's mind into speech). So it can seem like a double delay of a response is expected.
All I see is a message saying "this video is no longer available.
ReplyDeleteBut it is available! I can see it on IE and firefox. Anyone else having this problem?
ReplyDeleteI can see it. I'm on Explorer too. Hmmmmmmm. Anybody else having trouble?
ReplyDeleteThis video is most enjoyable. I have . . . heard of these people.
I have no problem with seeing this video, I am using
ReplyDeleteSafari. I like your more correct title, Autistic awareness
not autism awareness.
I can see it (the captions are faint, but readable, thanks for those!). I'm on Flock on a Mac.
ReplyDeleteNo problems for me using Firefox.
ReplyDeleteI like this video a lot. It's also really cool to see you Bev!
Not bad, when is the sequal?
ReplyDeleteVery good video.
ReplyDeleteI can really relate to this one - and I think most of the people I work with can too. I think my wife can probably relate to it too. Good find.
ReplyDeleteGreat video!
ReplyDelete:)
At first the blog post didn't show up, (it said the post isn't available, or something like that), when I clicked on my dashboard's "blogs I follow" link, but from the Hub, it works. Weird.
Maybe it was just a temporary glitch...
I like the video too. It makes a good point.
ReplyDeleteOnce people get impatient, I sometimes get rude. I'm burdened by the lack of awareness in others. I'm leaning to exercise more tolerance though. :)
Lovely video, Bev.
ReplyDeleteAbout a month ago, there was a funny incident of the reverse type:
ReplyDeleteMe: Kira, so what do you think about adding so-and-so to the project?
(A couple of minutes pass.)
Me: Kira, so what do you think about it?
Kira: (Gives an elaborate answer.)
XODAR (Kira's BF): Wow, why did you wait so long? I would've repeated or dropped the question sooner.
It was a funny feeling - being almost-criticized for showing patience. What makes it even more weird is that (1) he supposedly loves her, yet admits being less patient towards her and (2) they're both hardcore, textbook-caricature NTs - the sort who are very illogical, cherish opinions based on the number of followers, and keep staring at my face when we talk.
Anyway, the video should prove a short-but-good point of education for NTs interacting with NDs. Nice work.
Thank you for the video Bev. It helps my husband to see that not everyone can switch tracks from one task to another as fast as most do.
ReplyDeleteYour video shows mono-tasking in action. It even helped me to see better how others see me.
It was interesting seeing what you look like. Somehow, I imagined you with long brown hair! And why was there no parrot in the scene? Is it a parrot-free office?
ReplyDeleteI would assume your co-workers would be aware that you have a delay between hearing a request and responding to it, just as my co-workers are aware that I have a mild form of epilepsy that makes it seem like I'm occasionally zoning out and ignoring them.
People have all kinds of expectations that makes communication difficult sometimes. They want eye contact, but not too much or it appears rude or antagonistic, nods and smiles to indicate that their words are being heard and appreciated, and a liberal smattering of "uh-huhs" "wows" and "I know what you means."
It's very tiring.
Very interesting! Well done!!
ReplyDeletePlease make more video's like this.
Go girl go!!!
And it's so true what you tell us in the video...
@ anonymous,
ReplyDelete"And why was there no parrot in the scene? Is it a parrot-free office?"
Huh? But Squawkers is sitting on the desk! ;)
You have said more in one short video than all the gumph spouted in "Early Bird courses in Autism (deliberate mm) that I attended when my kids were first diagnosed.
ReplyDeletemore please!
Interestingly, from my little place on the spectrum, I interupt people before they finish as I have processed what they want, and I am afraid that I will forget what I need to answer before the thread moves on!
xx
ps. I would like to put this on my blog - with a link of course!!
You may not like this as it is the IAA, but I write the blog and I decide what goes on it. (and what doesnt)
lisadom,
ReplyDeleteYes, feel free to post this wherever you think it might help anyone. Thank you. I do the interrupting quite a bit, too, probably because the spoken form of the thought can easily disappear before I get a chance to say it.
Thanks to everyone for the kind comments on this little video. I do have a couple more that I will post later this month.
I process speech quickly, but under pressure just about anything can come out of my mouth-at warp speed. Kind of like the character in the new Battlestar Galactica that is the brain for the Cylon ships-the hybrid- says fundamentally important things mixed with ideas that nobody else gets.
ReplyDeleteMy conversation can be a lot like that. My thoughts too.
Great post as usual.
~Sarah
Thank you. I count to 15. Sometimes I count to 15 with ands.......works fine for us.
ReplyDeleteCheers
Thankyou "The spoken form of the thought" is just exactly what I find.
ReplyDeleteAnd thankyou for not saying it was just because I have 2 kids and no sleep for 11 years.
xx
Hi Bev, I heard your voice in my head yesterday as I repeatedly prompted my son to "use the soap" in the shower.
ReplyDelete"it takes me EXTRA TIME to process SPEECH""
So I linked you again.
Thanks for making me a better mum. xx
I can also relate to that. It drives many bosses crazy. It's hurt me professionally. And I have hardly ever felt at ease sharing my condition with most of my bosses because they were usually the type to turn it against you. I was very fortunate that my 1st boss was the very very best. I was far from having been diagnosed yet, but he intuitively seemed to know how to be a good boss for me. At first he assumed it might have been because perhaps English was my second language. But in reality I experience this in any language that I learn and in fact I knew Dnglish just as well as other languages. But my boss realized that if he waited just a little bit that he usually appreciated the quality of my answers a whole lot better than many of the answers he had been getting from other people. He eventually started to come to me for answers more often than not and before you knew it I was given very exciting projects and then I was promoted way before time! Unfortunately, as often happens with many outstanding bosses, he was promoted and took an assignment far away in Greenland. I was happy for him but the new boss that came in made it living hell for me and treated me like a "retard" and I eventually left after 5 months of that treatment.
ReplyDeleteI now see this again a couple of years later.
ReplyDeleteNoopept (a supplement which is only available online in the USA) helps with this. I didn't take it yesterday, so there was a greater processing delay. And it isn't only speech, but other sensory processing as well. It could be visual or tactile or anything else. And obviously auditory as well, which would affect speech. Interestingly, speech not only in its perception (listening and processing) but also in its delivery (translating what is in one's mind into speech). So it can seem like a double delay of a response is expected.